Me and My Girl!

It concerns me.

These are things I have noticed that are considered red flags and now that I have discussed my problems, I need to pay attention to these things to make sure that I can deal with them in the future.

I have noticed that you debate with me like you understand every word that I’m saying even though English is not your native language and you have never lived in a foreign country. Is this even possible? It concerns me.

I have noticed that when I respect your decision to go to sleep when I can't sleep and you say that you are tired, in the morning you wake up and start to take your things and claim the relationship is over. It concerns me.

I have noticed that many times you say I don’t remember what happened in a given situation, but you remember exactly what happened and I was wrong. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you never say, you don’t remember what happened. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you start crying very quickly in public places about things like which toilet to go to. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you are not so willing to talk about yourself and your life history. I really don’t know much about your past. I have asked you many times to share these things with me but you don’t. It is your prerogative, but it concerns me.

I have asked you many times to explain and share things about your religion and the topics of your studying. You said you would but you didn’t do that on your own. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you will suddenly get upset about something in the middle of a story that has nothing to do with the current situation. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you are constantly saying that I’m not listening to you, even when I’m listening to you. It concerns me.

I have heard you say things about me like “I’m really broken or I only want you for your money or I didn’t buy your dinner because we used your credit card”. These things are very mean and simply not true. It concerns me.

I have noticed that I have said that you don’t do things when I ask you nicely, a lot of times. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you have very strong opinions about things that you don’t understand and you tend to judge people based on these opinions. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you get upset when I say you don’t understand. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you say you understand some thing that is very important, but then later you say you didn’t understand that same thing. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you have changed your mind or the rules because “it depends on the situation”, but it is unfair for others to do that and when they do you get very upset. It concerns me.

I have noticed that whenever there is a situation you get very very upset if I said you got upset first. Even when you got upset first. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you to say “no no no” when you hear something that you don’t like even though it is true. It concerns me.

I have noticed that you say you love me and you want to be with me forever even though you think I drink too much, but I told you that I probably won't stop because I don't have the resources nor the support available to help me do so at this time. It concerns me.

I have noticed that I am fearful of losing you even though I have noticed all of these things. It concerns me.

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