No circumstance has the power to create, change, manipulate or control your emotions. No other human being has the power to create, change, manipulate or control your emotions. I can not control what you’re feeling right now...and neither can anyone you know either, no matter in what form they are communicating with you. .(It's your fault that you feel bad Posted by The Probabilist)
Expecting too much
I think a large part of the frustration that most of us experience in life is due to unrealistic expectations. We often expect too much of life in general, and of other people in particular.
For instance, we may encounter someone who is rude, and we get upset, thinking, How can he treat me that way? Doesn't he know any better? What's wrong with him? I would never treat someone like that!
If you think about it, these questions are mostly pointless.
How can he treat me that way? It's probably the way he treats most people. It's not personal. It's just his way.
Doesn't he know any better? Probably not. There are a lot of people who have never learned the ABCs of appropriate social interaction.
What's wrong with him? Nothing, except he has a blind spot when it comes to dealing with people. We all have blind spots. It's just easier to identify them in others than in ourselves.
I would never treat someone like that! The truth is, all of us behave badly now and then. We excuse it or rationalize or overlook it. Well, so does the person we're complaining about.
By expecting too much, we just drive ourselves crazy. We keep saying that other people "should" be a certain way. They should be more considerate, more competent, more open-minded, more helpful, more sensible, etc. Should, should, should. But people don't behave the way they "should." They behave the way they are. The sooner we accept this and learn to live with it, the less stressed out we'll be.
http://michaelprescott.typepad.com/michael_prescotts_blog/2007/02/expecting_too_m.html
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